There’s necessary support anyone who’s born into a family should receive, like love, acceptance, and sacrifices. Then there’s (what what will be debated here) ‘unnecessary support,’ like accompanying each other to basketball games and events.
A question comes up every time my family and I bump heads is How much do they really have to do for me? As the black sheep of the family, I often go back and forth between 2 options.
Side A: When your interests and styles are incompatible with there’s, they don’t need to care. If you already know that your mom and dad are not into ice skating, do you want to bring them with you? If you’re someone who likes things to be fast and spontaneous, but your sister likes to sit and take her time, is that someone you want to spend your vacation with? Even if you really want to share an experience with someone, if they’re not the right fit, you wouldn’t even want to spend it with them.
Side B: Even when your interests and styles aren’t compatible with there’s, they should still make the effort to make yours important to them. An important aspect of a family dynamic is making sacrifices and sometimes you might feel like you need someone who’s close to you to be there; not a friend, but family.
For example, Kelly’s been wanting to watch a new comedy movie that has recently come out. Her sister, who isn’t a fan of comedy movies, still joins her to make her feel loved and acknowledged.
Not everyone is lucky to feel seen by the people in their household. If that’s you, listen to this.
On an episode of The Neighborhood, (S2 E7) Tina wanted to renew her vows with Calvin, while he didn’t see the need to. Later on while Dave was talking to Calvin he said, “Well sometimes the things that are unnecessary are the things that matter the most.”
That’s true. When you love something so much and it fulfills you, it becomes important, thus making it feel necessary.
In that case, how much support should family give too each other?
What do you think?
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